How many things are you addicted to right now? Okay, I understand addicted may be too strong a word, or is it? You think binge watching Netflix isn’t addiction? Gaming for 15 hours a night isn’t addiction? Constantly, and OBSESSIVELY checking your phone every time it beeps, AND even when it doesn’t, isn’t addiction? Hours upon hours clicking here there and everywhere on your tablet, laptop, desktop, (why the hell do we have all this damn technology, eek!), for hours isn’t addiction either?
Okay, okay, maybe I came down on you guys a bit too harshly there, because obviously I KNOW all about those type of addictions first hand – not to mention my battle with alcohol, but that’s a whole OTHER monster I am not going to take on right now in this post. But, people with alcohol and drug addictions usually find peace and help through organizations like NA and AA, so why not have an organization, (or safe place), for the rest of us who suffer from “regular” addictions?
Maybe an organization like that may be a bit too far-fetched, mostly because people who binge-watch, game for endless hours, and OBSESS about their phones AND social media, DON’T think they have an addiction at all – you know because that is just our society’s culture now, so all of that is basically accepted behavior. Controlled chaos with addictive undertones? Hmm. Not a bad hypothesis if I do say so myself!
Anyway, my advice to break the cycle of this type of behavior is a very simple technique: Structure and General Organization of EVERYTHING in your life at the present moment. Sure, you can say, “I have everything in order!! I mean, I have OCD!!” Alright, alright, hold your horses cowboy/cowgirl, because I have some news for you – even though you may have some form of OCD, your ass could still be COMPLETELY disorganized. Controlled chaos remember? BUT, that is easily fixable too!
Since my change in medication, (to Seroquel 150mg), I have been MAKING my Bipolar Disorder work to my advantage. Being bipolar, (for most of us), means INSANE mania – to the point where we get shit done, rock it, KILL it, and just conquer almost EVERY kind of project or work that needs to get done – TIMES 10000000!! And I am not even kidding! Anyone who has ever been manic can testify that not only does the “magic” of creativity happen, (artists benefit the MOST from this), but we also get A LOT of crap DONE, COMPLETED, and ACCOMPLISHED!! Like a WOW kind, you know? However, the down side, (oh god the dreaded down side), to all of this wonderful progress is either the psychosis phase after you have been flying TOO high, or the dreadful crash that can plummet SO LOW that we fall deep into a dark hole of Bipolar Depression. And oh, that place (where you are so crippled that getting out of bed takes SO MUCH energy and willpower), completely sucks HUGE donkey balls – UGH!!
My solution you ask? How did I make my Bipolar Illness work for me so I don’t end up with the psychosis or depression? Manage, manage, structure, structure, discipline, discipline!!!! And trust me when I say, IT’S NOT EASY AT ALL!! But, like all human beings, once we are conditioned to an act, we are very much like Pavlov’s Dog where it becomes so routine that it becomes second nature to us, and we end up doing it without even thinking.
You are now probably saying to yourself: “That sounds like a royal pain in the ass, I can’t do it, and I don’t even know where to begin.” All valid responses, my friend! So, I will tell you the easiest and BEST way to get a handle on things:
Set time limits.
Yup! That’s it!! Did you think I was going to go on for another 500 words spewing some “Self-Help” garbage that is constantly being pounded on you from countless “experts?” Haha! Sorry honey, I ain’t got time for that! And I wouldn’t do that to you anyway, because honestly, some of the stuff out there on “how to organize your life” and all that sounds an awful lot like LECTURING to me – and since I can’t stand being told what to do from frickin’ anybody at all, that material is a total turn-off to me.
So yes: “Setting Time Limits” is the BEST and EASIEST way to get your life organized and help you find some structure, so that you don’t fall into a pit of hell after one of your “addiction” binges. What do I mean by that? Ask yourself how you feel about your life when you have been gaming for 15 hours and have to wake up, (after two hours sleep), to go to work? Ask yourself how you feel after you have Binge Watched that ENTIRE series on Netflix and your eyes hurt like hell, and your stomach hurts like hell, (oh I know you guys eat snackies when you binge watch), AND you can’t get to sleep because your mind is spinning and so active? (It’s probably spinning like that because after those 10-15 hours of watching TV straight, your mind is still processing all of that and you are probably excited at how it ended, how its going, what the next episode will be like, and all of that). And don’t get me started about people’s obsession with their phone and social media these days –
“Bing! Lucy just liked my Instagram photo – Bing! Robby just checked in to see Black Panther, I wonder what he will think of it?? – Bing! New email from work, I need to get the numbers over first thing tomorrow – Bing! New text from one of your Tinder matches, hmm better go kill two hours swiping now – Bing! Bing! Bing!”
Need I say more? I think you get the idea.
The way around this is to ACTIVELY FORCE yourself to get off the DAMN device, (computer, phone, tablet, whatever), and ALWAYS keep yourself in motion.
Setting time limits is easy as –
Project 1 – Chat on some sex site – 1 hour LIMIT! (But he’s so hot and I want more!! Screw that, get the hell off of there in ONE HOUR WOMAN!!)
Project 2 – Tinder Time – 1 hour LIMIT! (But swiping is SO MUCH FUN!! I have so many messages to answer too, I can’t POSSIBLY do all this in one hour! Oh, you CAN limit it to one hour you damn addict, so cut the bullshit!!)
Project 3 – Social Media – 2 hours LIMIT!!! (I gave myself, as well as you guys, some leeway here, because I am talking about ALL the Social Media platforms: Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and whatever else. You can FORCE yourself to get off of there in 2 hours, you CAN!!! No Excuses!!)
Project 4 – Netflix – 2 hours LIMIT!! (Don’t fall into this trap, seriously people! There WERE days in Ancient Times where people had to WAIT A WHOLE WEEK to watch the next episode of a series, you know – well I guess some are still like that. But anyway, I am GIVING you TWO episodes here as a bonus, so be happy and just stick with it!! (But, I want to see what happens next!! NO!!!! You can wait, there is other shit to do!!) – Disclaimer: This rule can be modified because this MAY tie in to your down time, where you just want to relax and not think or do shit, and I COMPLETELY understand and empathize, so you CAN give yourself a bit of leeway here – just don’t make your leeway 6 friggin hours!
Anyway, I am DONE hammering you guys, but you get where I am coming from with all of that. I hope you realize that the “Projects” I mentioned there totaled 6 hours. I mean I understand that you probably don’t do ALL the things that I listed there. I even left out the countless hours of gaming and phone obsession. So, you can see how ALL that time we invest in a lot of “recreational” activities can cause us to neglect the things we need to accomplish in life.
It’s as simple as SETTING TIME LIMITS people. SET yourself a time. Use the timer on your phone to remind you when you need to get the hell off of some nonsensical thing you are wasting time on. You will soon see how things will magically fall into place and you will end up having ALL THE TIME in the world to do any productive thing you have been putting off for WAY too long.
Cleaning out that Garage. Cleaning up all your papers – Financial records, School books and notebooks, etc. Just to name a few.
Again, you get the idea, so its time to make some moves now!!
GET OFF YOUR ASS MAGGOT!!! (Channeling my inner Gunnery Sergeant Hartman from Full Metal Jacket)
You can do it!!!! (I mean if my lazy ass can, so can you!!)